September 28, 2003
And the punches just keep on coming

So I've been out of sorts lately with the cat being sick. It has stressed me out and left me feeling really sad because him being sick might be a sign of worse things to come. The thought of not having my little cat around is a little traumatizing to me.

And now this. Yesterday my mom emails me to let me know that my sister and I had received to packages from France from a Lawyer. Now I immediately think it has something to do with my grandmother. Is she dead? No, I calmly think, they would have at least CALLED about that incident. So then it must be related to her will as why else would a french lawyer be contacting me.

And boy was I right. Since my dad died my sister and I got his portion of what was given to him when my grandfather died, namely a portion of my grandparents house which of course is my grandmother's until she dies. Apparently my grandmother wants to give the house soley to my aunt and wants to basically buy us out and she wants to do it now.

The fact is I hadn't even thought of getting anything from them ever. It never even entered my head that I was going to get something that was supposed to go to my dad. And now this out of the blue. I mean we got no phone call, no letter, just paperwork from the lawyer. WHO DOES THAT? We don't even know if our grandmother is sick and that's why she's having this done. We don't know anything because since my dad died they've basically refused to talk to us.

It makes me so angry. I almost want to say I don't want anything. They can keep my portion of the house and their money. I mean it's like their trying to cut us out of their lives for good. Like if they buy us out, they REALLY don't have to deal with us anymore. It also makes me extremely sad since my fondest memories from when I was younger are with them, in that house. But apparently I'm still to blame for my father's death since this is the first contact they've made for three years and it's to get me out of their financial lives.

I mean WHO DOES THIS? Who does this to their grandchildren? To the last contact they have to their son? I mean we don't even know if she's doing this because she's sick. That would be nice to know. I mean despite the fact that I feel like my grandmother wants nothing to do with me, I still care. I still want to know.

So now on top of being worried sick about the cat, I've been handed some MORE emotional baggage from a family who can't seem to communicate or ever forgive anybody for anything.

So anyways I'm feeling crappy today and even buying shoes has not helped. sigh.

Posted by nuala at September 28, 2003 04:00 PM

your french family sucks. i'm sorry you have to deal with this. i love you. and ribbon is going to be fine.

p.s. cute shoes? i want new shoes.

Posted by: michele on September 28, 2003 05:44 PM

That sucks. But, if they're going to be dicks about it and everything, I think you and Ady should try to take them for as much money as possible.

Posted by: sean on September 29, 2003 02:20 AM

i'm so sorry. people in pain do strange things i guess. although you are in pain and remain rational so who knows. but i love you and i wish i could help.

how is the kitty today? is he any better?

Posted by: didofoot on September 29, 2003 09:15 AM

Thanks. Kitty is better. Still has an ULCER on his EYE. But he's eating again....I sound like a frantic mother. I mean I was stressed over him, what am I going to do when I have a kid and they get sick. Oh it is not a pretty image.

Oh and it was boots. They're pretty and very cheap thanks to a Macy's sale and my housemate's employee discount. Yea Krista.

Posted by: nuala on September 29, 2003 08:51 PM

My too sense is you and Ady keep your portion of the house. If they want to sell, let them sell and you take your cut. I'd be willing to bet that they buy you out just in order to sell it and hoard it to themselves. As for the French family, let them rot. You might some day enjoy visiting the place and there are possibly other doors open to owning property in France (citizenship)? I'd ignore or dismiss the paperwork and let them stew. Maybe send them a postcard emblazoned with a portrait of our beloved President. Btw – did you vote yet? I did the “No/Bust-a-Full Monte thing, but kind of regret not going Camejo, whom I actually enjoy listening to.

When are you coming up? We all miss you. I particularly miss my most loyal subject. Whenever you do make it, lunch is on the Emperor.

Posted by: shoefly on September 30, 2003 12:46 PM

I'm going to try and come up I swear......I just have to find out when a good time would be. However I'll definately make sure to come and have lunch with you all.

Posted by: nuala on September 30, 2003 09:26 PM